Love is no more blind....

I happened to watch two movies recently with two very strong female characters. In both films, the lead actress are shown to be deeply in love but very practical. First girl is very focussed on her goal in life and is clear how her life partner should be. In another case, girl is very successful and in no mood to adjust her professional life. Both are ready to forego love if they have to compromise. They are aware of what will keep them more happy and satisfied in life

I feel our Hindi movies are reflection of our society to a great extent. I really loved both the characters. It is not that I am feminist and so I feel so but yes I love the progress in our society which is beneficial to all practically.

One of our family friends daughter cancelled her wedding just 2 days before the scheduled date. Theirs was love marriage but she realised with so many family differences this marriage won’t work.Many were accusing girl of being too ambitious, professional and strongheaded. But I felt really nice that at least she had guts to stand up for her happiness and future. She didn’t have to commit just for sake of proving true love.

A friend of mine was in relationship for 2 years with office colleague.But he got frustrated with her possessiveness and jealous behaviour. He couldn’t handle it and decided to break up..A girl wanted her beau to relocate to a different location for her family preferences leaving his career and family..they eventually parted ways..In another case inlaws wanted their to be daughter in law to cook nonveg food at home.She being a pure vegetarian and too religious couldn’t even visualise and refused to do so strongly putting her relationship at stake..In another case before marriage a boy declared clearly to his fiancé that she would have to share her income and bear expenses happily to live a good lifestyle. A girl was shocked to see level of religious activities, philosophy followed by her boyfriend and his family and understood clearly she wont be able to adjust ..she decided to move on since she knew she would fail to cope and match their thought process.

Love is a very beautiful feeling and once in love we are ready to fight and win over all odds..we just want to be together ..come what may..we don’t think beyond that..we oversee all other things..we are ready to accept things as they are..this is how love is..we believe in this and many of us have experienced it..Love is blind..this fact is accepted happily and then once we are together reality starts dawning...actual facts and impending problems start becoming clear..but still we struggle ,we compromise we adjust ..we are happy only because we are in love..we believe in true love we should not complain ....we may have to set aside our preferences, our likes just because we are in love..love is so precious that all this struggle is nothing....this is all we have seen and believed throughout..

But time has really changed a lot in last few years. Love is a natural , pure and most strong feeling. But new generation seems to have maturity to deal with this feeling..girl or boy both..love seems no more impulsive..people fall in love..but wish love to make them strong and happy..not just dependent and emotional.

In today’s competitive fast world with so much communication advancement falling in love is easy but hanging on, sailing through is very difficult. .Every individual and his/her family have dreams aspirations and expectations. In initial phase of love everything seems rosy. But after spending some time after knowing each other , when time comes to be together realities are much different..Individual character,qualities, individual vision, family background ,career goals, life goals need not be always be as per expectation and vice versa..one may not be able to fit in bracket as expected..In such situations generally people tend to compromise since they are in love..everything will be fine..choti moti adjustments to karni padti hain..pyar kiya toh nibhana to padega..resulting one of the partner has to sacrifice dreams, goals or has to face the music of decision lifetime..love birds tend to drift apart .Many love marriages turn sour leading to divorce..

Rather than this many individuals practically decide to part ways before lifetime commitment..breakups are painful..Definitely..But they save lovebirds from daily tussles. All are struggling on professional front in the outside world..they don’t want a struggle ,don't want to disturb inner peace..just because of social pressures they don’t want to commit..love is important but not the only factor in life. Good education enhances the capacity to think and decide for self. If an individual is not happy how can he keep his partner, his family ,his friends happy. Many families don’t accept new member open heartedly. The new member may have to bear the brunt of their anger lifetime.Not everyone is so strong to make adjustments to make compromises with goals , with dreams and be happy only because one is in love.

Career choices, location preferences, spending pattern, travelling choices, adventure appetite, food preferences, hobbies, even preferences for children happen to differ. Companionship today is more about sharing, caring, satisfaction, strengthening rather than social commitment, financial and mental dependence. The level of commitment, flexibility ,maturity if understood can avoid a whole lot of problems. Before commitment if apparent issues are discussed and sorted out life tends to be little more simple. Love and peace of life remains intact. Solutions if possible can be worked out beforehand in an amicable way. Compromises and sacrifices are a part and parcel of every relationship. Getting best of all worlds always is not easy and feasible .There is nothing like 100 % perfect love or perfect partner..but just being a little practical little realistic can save many ..Love is beautiful very precious so is individual life..Acceptance of differences ,of preferences ,choices happily is essence of good companionship and is more easily possible if Love is not blind..