Soch - Cogitation

One scene which remained on my mind for a long time from recent hindi movie is where the actress suggests to change the caption of the company's ad to 'Soch nayi swad wahi' and then men are shown cooking traditional delicacies instead of women of the house.

Idea or concept though good is really feasible or practical in a country like India is what concerns me.

The other day I was just scrolling through reels (favourite time pass of many these days) and I came across atleast 20 tiffin making reels in an hour and guess what all of them had women making and packing lunch boxes for husband or children. In one reel wife even says how husband disliked the tiffin veggie yesterday and he brought it back so I am cooking extra dishes to make him happy today.

It may be love or it may be guilt but are men equally empathetic?

I have nothing against women cooking or packing lunch boxes.I myself have been doing the same happily by choice but when we say soch badlo is it really so easy as said.

The primary responsibility of kitchen, arranging and managing groceries is still of women in many families. As a matter of fact in maharashtrian weddings girl takes devi annapurna idol to her husband's home.Annapurna is manifestation of devi Parvati and is Goddess of food and nourishment.

Sadly in many households even today men don'tknow to cook or even to make a cup of coffee or tea for themselves.I have many male colleagues and over the years I have seen very few taking interest in kitchen or related activities. I came across only one friend who has taken entire kitchen and cooking responsibility on himself on daily basis.He does all cooking and his wife manages other household chores. This arrangement helps them do thier jobs effectively and give equal attention to kids.But this is really one of an example atleast I have came across.

We have so many master chef men whose cooking shows are super hit and superfamous who have opened restaurants across the globe. So it establishes one fact that nature doesnt bifurcate in imparting skills .My father, my uncles cook very well and in case of any need at home they take up the responsibility too but its once a while.

The other day I was down with fever and my teenage daughter instantly made upma and gave me medicines.I feel this feeling of nurturing and caring is inborn amongst girls. Nowadays even boys are becoming sensible watching their moms working on different fronts.But if not, we seriously need to inculcate that sensitivity be it girl or boy.

Cooking ,buying veggies, groceries are also lifeskills and its high time we make realise every member of household this crtical aspect

We have instant food ordering apps, cooks,househelps so whats the need may be the instant reply but we need to make the young people realise that even these apps fail at times.Esp during pandemic we all have seen how everything had become inacessible.

There is no requirement to cook actually daily but the realistion that it is an important task and may have to be divided whenever necessary.

I feel work allocation amongst families should be based on liking and preferences but at the end its a collective responsibility and one needs to recognise and respect it completely and consistently.

सोच बदलो,अपनी दुनिया बदलो,

खाने के है शौकीन सभी ,

कभी करने दो कोशिश उन्हे भी,

जो आये ही नही इस इलाके में,

उनको भी खबर हो नही होता आसान कुछ भी .

प्यार से करो अगर कोशिश,

बन जाती है टेस्टी हर डिश.

इतना भी मुश्किल नही ,

सोच बदलने की बात है

प्यार से मुमकिन है सभी.